If you're wondering if you are in a toxic relationship, chances are that you probable are in such a relationship. Your hunch is probably right, but here are the clues that will help you identify your relationship, to see if you are living with a toxic person:
1. Your partner disrespects you (verbally) in front of other people.
2. Your partner might say that he loves you, but his actions tell you otherwise.
3. Your partner tries to make you dependent on him.
4. Your partner checks up on you, snooping around your personal stuff,reading your emails.
5. You constantly change yourself to please him.
Toxic people are so insecure that they project their insecurities on their partner. Those kind of people make you very uncomfortable just being around them. So you might ask why would anybody want to be in such a relationship? A relationship that makes you feel emotionally unstable.
When you first start dating he is very attentive and makes you feel like you are his queen and you could do no wrong. You really feel like you have found your soul mate, a person that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
As time wears on and he starts relaxing and being himself he starts to question every move you make. He gets jealous when you talk to another man, he constantly checks up on you and snoops around on your cell phone to see if you are talking to any man.
Once you realize what he is doing you start wondering if this man is actually someone that you want to live with. You try to find out where he is getting his insecurities from and after talking to him about it you find out the he came from a home that his parents were in a toxic relationship. So subconsciously he is repeating the cycle.
But the first step in getting out and staying out of toxic relationships is to realize that you do have choices. Often people who stay in these relationships have low self esteem, they don't think that they deserve any better or suffer from depression.
Now you know that you have choices, now you need to stand up for yourself. Don't fall for that old line that it is all your fault, most toxic partners will try to make you feel like it's all your fault. Do yourself a favor and do not believe his lies, if you fall for all those lies it will be very difficult for you to walk away or to set new limits to heal your relationship.
The good news is that some people are able to break the cycles of toxic relationships. The truth is that most relationships are able to be repaired. Sometimes it takes a little time. Other times, it takes counseling. But if both partners make an attempt, it is possible to renew the bonds in a healthy way.
Learn more about how to get out of toxic relationships and start building a healthy relationship.
Good Luck,
Jeanette Fitzgerald
http://www.makinguptips.org
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