Tuesday

Discover a Secret To Using Reverse Psychology to Save Your Relationship

If your relationship hit a rough spot and you want to rekindle your relationship by using reverse psychology to get your ex back is not as complicated as it sounds. You just want your ex to notice you and not ignore you. All you do is use some straightforward methods that will make your ex take notice of you and not continue to ignore you.

1. First thing you should be doing is to get out and have some fun. Start meeting other people and do not sit home and think about your ex all the time. This is going to be tough for you, but it beats staying home night after night on your own and filing the urge to contact your ex or sitting and thinking about them and getting depressed. So even if you are not in the mood to go out and socialize, force yourself to go out and make some new friends or connect with old friends.

2. Your second thing should be to promise yourself that you will not make contact with them. That means no driving by their home or work, no texting, no calling and definitely no trying to see them. This might seem counter-productive to your ultimate goal of getting your ex back, but look at it this way: if you stop calling your ex, especially when they've made it clear that they don't want to be contacted, then you appear calm, mature and in control of yourself, you never want them to see your desperation, which gives them the upper hand in the relationship. Once your ex begins to see you this way you are immediately more appealing than the desperate person you were who was bombarding them with calls.

This simple reverse psychology means that if you have stopped trying to make contact with your ex, then immediately your ex begins to wonder just what you're up to. They start thinking about you wondering why you're not contacting them, so now you are in their thoughts, which is just where you want to be.

Your ex finds out that you are out and about having fun enjoying yourself, they'll be surprised how well you are doing without them. They might even be jealous because it appears, you don't have time for your ex and it's basic human nature to want that which is scarce and that's exactly what you will become. Just like that, you've become someone who is desired and not someone to be avoided.

Taking the steps towards understanding how to win your ex back really means looking after yourself first and foremost. When you concentrate on your own requirements first and foremost, without obsessing about what your ex wants and what you should do to please them, then you inadvertently find yourself using these simple forms of Reverse Psychology without even realizing it. So you see, it is not a complicated process and you will find that your ex will respond to you in a more open and amenable way.

The Best To You,

Jeanette Fitzgerald
http://makinguptips.org

Thursday

Why Do I Want My Ex Back

“Why do I want My ex back?” has been the cry of many who have been unable to let go of a love that has past them by. It is an understandable question to ask. Common sense tels you that you need to move on. Most of your closest friends are hoping that you would. Your ex most likely is wishing that you could move on as well. So why is it that you have to keep asking yourself, “Why do I want my ex back?”

When you are asking, “Why do I want my ex back?” consider what has just happened. You were in a love relationship of some kind, may be a marriage. It may have lasted a long time or only a short time but in either case, you had a lot invested in it. It is hard to let go of things and ideas that you may have been really attached to.

Most people do not enter into relationships lightly. They go into them hoping for something that will last a long time and just want love. You have dreams of the way that things could be. You have an idea of the way things should be. For some reason it doesn't happen. The bubble bursts on your idea and then you are left hanging on. It made such good and almost perfect sense at the time and then it is gone. You have to adjust to the idea that what you saw isn't there anymore if it was at all.

Was it love or just the idea of being in love? The lines get so confusing sometimes. Was the love ever there? It is very likely that it was at one point. The only problem was that it wasn't permanent. The two of you became incredibly important parts of each other. You get used to having certain things or people attached to you and when they are gone your mind may have trouble adjusting.

There are those who have lost limbs who still feel a phantom itch in the appendage that is now gone. There are still brain cells that are telling you that what isn't there itches and there isn't a thing you can do about it unless you retrain your brain.

The same thing is true for those who were intimately attached to someone, whether it was romantic or platonic in nature. If those people are removed for some reason, those parts of your brain that had grown accustomed to that loved one being there will have to adjust. While your brain is adjusting to the change, you are left thinking about them almost against your will.

If you are frustrated because you keep asking yourself, “Why do I want my ex back?” don't get too distraught over it. It may help you to get some advice on how to get over a relationship from someone who has been there or who understands and has helped others. It is only natural that you will have trouble with it and “want my ex back.” Give it some time, get some help, and get distracted and in time you will no longer be asking, “Why do I want my ex back?”

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Talk soon,

Jeanette Fitzgerald
http://makinguptips.org/